Rich Man Refuses to Pay More Child Support to Struggling Ex, His Parents Accuse Him of Being a Bad Father, Sparking Family Debate About Parenting

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    $ ♡ $ $ $ +3 $ My child's mother is struggling. She is working multiple jobs right now to make ends meet. She has asked me to contribute more financially. I give her most of what I make personally from the court- ordered child support. But, she wants me to use my parents' money and give it to her. I refuse. $ ♡ $ ♡ $ M $
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    r/AITAH ⚫9 hr. ago Round Apartment_2104 AITA for not paying more than the court ordered child support when my ex is struggling and my family has money.
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    This is a throwaway. I (20M) had my first child back in January. The mother (22F) and I broke up before our son was born. I have been paying court ordered child support. But, the amount is small. I come from a well-off family, but my personal assets are basically nothing right now as I am working through school.
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    My child's mother is struggling. She is working multiple jobs right now to make ends meet. She has asked me to contribute more financially. I give her most of what I make personally from the court- ordered child support. But, she wants me to use my parents' money and give it to her. I refuse.
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    My parents' view on the matter is that I and her alone are responsible for our child. They are willing to pay for child care during my custody time so I can do school and/or work, but they see that as a benefit directly to me. I refuse to use their generosity towards me and take advantage of it. My ex is calling me an AH.
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    She says I am living quite comfortably because of my family. That is true. I have offered to take more custody time with our son, but she refused my offer. She already works 60-ish hours a week and says she cannot work more. I have offered for me to take full custody, she also refuses. AITA?
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    MikebMikeb999... 4h ago I would send the baby home with extra food, diapers, clothes, etc. I might not give her extra cash but I'd try to lessen the load some if I could
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    • grumps46 6h ago • All I can say is I feel bad for your kid
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    • • 4h ago Edited 4h ago INFO: Who is paying your tuition? Also, would she have to pay you child support if you got more custody, because of your "lack of assets?"
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    Much-Topic-4992 • 5h ago Whole thread is gross
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    ReplicatoReplica • 3h ago • As a mum who experienced this but is now earning same if not more than my ex, a little bit of empathy is life changing. If the mother is struggling your child will struggle. The primary attachment has a significant
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    impact on the child's development. So up to you if you want to do the best for your child. If you take a child-first approach over a court directed, legal position you will set your child up for a far better future, developmentally.
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    There's plenty of evidence for it.
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    Palmtastic 6h ago • The mother is struggling and your parents are only willing. to help with childcare when it's one of your 10 days a month?
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    It may be legal but it sure isn't kind. If the mom is struggling the kid struggles. Nobody's saying they need to give her cash but childcare is basically the cost of a mortgage. I would ask your parents to help with that. You have the ability to go to school and make more
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    money. It sounds like she's doing it all and won't be able to get ahead, merely survive.
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    Maximum-Ear17... 6h ago INFO - did you both agree together to go through with the pregnancy? What was the plan for financial support and work before you broke up?
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    CryptographerFi... • 5h ago • IDK, do you want your son to have a mom that is not exhausted? For him to grow up going without? Is that what his grandparents want? Do you want him to have two parents that just want to give him his best life? You!
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    going to increase the child support when you graduate?
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    Famous-Compos... • 8h ago This is above and beyond my judgment. But remember.....this is about YOUR CHILD, not you. Not your ex. Do what you can for him.
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    henningknows • 9h ago • NTA, however, what is the custody situation?
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    • 3Welder 6h ago • If you care about your kid, help. My dad pays only the child support ordered from the court. We don't have any money. The past 2 years were terrible. I try to tell dad but he refuses to help. And every time I go to his home,
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    he always has new furniture or new decorations, he always has 2 foods per day, he has 4 pets. And we are so poor it's unbelievable. Care about your kid

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